I hear it from women all the time. “I get along better with guys. Women are bitches.” This can be true to an extent. Like if you’re so drop-dead beautiful that all women are intimidated by you. But most of the time, no. Most of the time when I hear this from women, I know why:
No one wants to hear how hot everyone thinks you are. Your girlfriends don’t give a shit. So a guy messaged you. So what? You were hit on in a bar. Who isn’t? The fact that you have to share every flirtation, every message, and every drunken encounter gets old. It gets old really fast. It’s not that we’re intimidated, it’s just that we’re sick of hearing it. Who wants to be friends with someone that’s blowing sunshine up their own ass all the time? To me, that shows insecurity and the desperate need for validation. You don’t need a friendship. You need an audience.
If some random person flirts with me, fine. If someone messages me and says I’m cute, fine. I don’t feel the need to tell everyone, because I know that no one really gives a shit. And I don’t need validation from anyone. Because frankly, I don’t give a shit either. Attention is nice, but I no longer need it to feel good.
Hearing over and over again, “He thinks I’m hot” is not a way to get female friends. It’s not an insecurity thing, it’s a tolerance thing. It’s cute for maybe a minute. After that, it’s annoying. Get over your ego and invite some girlfriends into your life. As equals. It’s nice here. You’re no hotter than anyone else.