I haven’t written in a while, mostly because I’ve been reading so many blog posts. So many people have so much to say. And I’m just another one. So much to say, with such a small audience. I prefer that, actually. Yet, I haven’t wanted to write anything. Until today.
If you know me, you know I’m on Facebook a lot. Mostly out of habit, and it’s a bit of an addiction. I love to see what people have to say. I haven’t posted much lately, but I’ve been seeing what others post, and I can’t help but notice when I see insecurity. It’s not a bad thing, just an observation, yet still frustrating.
I know when people are feeling insecure. When they post things like, “Describe me in one word.” I can see through that. They might as well say, “I’m feeling insecure. Validate me.” To me, it’s so painfully obvious that I’m almost embarrassed for them, but not everyone feels that way. And not everyone sees it.
People post photos of themselves posing beautifully with captions like, “Working for the day,” and it makes no sense. I mean, just post the picture of yourself. If you want to, just do it. I do. No caption is needed. If you caption it with something stupid, the whole thing looks stupid. Better yet, if the pic is great, make it your profile picture.
Everyone gets insecure. I do for sure. And I usually don’t post it. But if I did, it wouldn’t be in the form of, “Describe me in one word.” I’d feel terribly transparent. I used to do things like this years ago, and I regret it now. It’s a false sense of validation and not at all real. Now, Facebook is for sharing articles, cute animals, and funny things that happen to me. If I need to work on myself, I’ll do that on my own.
So, to my friends struggling with insecurity at the moment: You don’t need someone to describe you in one word. You’re more than one word. And you know this deep down. Most likely people will say, “beautiful!” Or “Loving!” Do they really mean what they say? You’ll never know. As cliche as it sounds, it’s how you feel about yourself that counts. You won’t get that from Facebook or Instagram.